Ppl don’t like me? Ponder what behind their story.

"I was eleven when my grandma said seven words that ended my fear of being disliked forever." It was an ordinary afternoon. Nothing dramatic. Just the usual walk home from school, past familiar houses, down the road to my grandparents' farmhouse. Most days I'd burst through the door talking about homework or friends or whatever felt important at that age. But that day was different. I walked in quieter. Slower. Carrying something I couldn't name yet. Grandma noticed immediately. She didn't ask questions. She didn't rush me or fill the silence. She took my coat, led me to the kitchen, and did what she always did when someone needed comfort. She made hot chocolate. Set out cookies. Sat down and waited. Halfway through my cup, the truth slipped out. "There's this girl at school. I thought she liked me. But today she said something mean." I stared into my drink. "I don't think anyone at school likes me." For an eleven-year-old, that felt like the world ending. Like being rejected by life itself. Grandma didn't rush to reassure me. She took a slow sip of coffee, choosing her words carefully. Then she looked at me, soft but steady. "Totty," she said. She always called me Totty instead of Kathy. "A few people in life will really like you. Some won't like you at all." She paused. "But most people? They won't think much about you either way." I blinked, surprised. "They might notice your shoes. Your smile. Say hello in passing," she continued. "But once you're gone? They go right back to their own lives." Even at eleven, it landed. She wasn't being cruel. She was being honest in the gentlest way possible. One person's words didn't define my worth. Most people aren't judging us as harshly as we imagine. They're just surviving their own days. Then she added something that changed everything. "If someone walks by without saying hello, it probably isn't personal. Maybe they're distracted. Worried about something you can't see. And if someone's rude when you haven't done anything wrong?" She leaned forward. "There's a good chance they're carrying something heavy themselves." In other words: not everything is about you. And that's actually freeing. That moment settled into me quietly. It didn't erase hurt forever. But it gave me somewhere to return to. Even now, years later. When I feel excluded. When silence stings. When words land harder than they should. I go back to that kitchen. To the hot chocolate. To my grandma's calm voice. And I remind myself: If I didn't do anything wrong, it probably has more to do with them than me. That small piece of wisdom has softened countless hard days. She taught me that most people are too busy with their own fears to focus on mine. That being overlooked isn't rejection—it's just life moving forward. That my worth isn't determined by who notices me in hallways or who remembers to wave. My grandma gave me permission to stop carrying other people's reactions as proof of my value. And I've carried her words instead. Every single day since.

Video : aug 20/8/25 lee choo

1. Connecting and focus invite his presence) to God, exalt his name WORSHIP
2. Reading the Word

John 1:1-5

The word of God is 

light of God

Darkness lack of understanding 

• read 2 chapters 
• God watches over his word

Matthew 16

X somber

Fast for a need/family member

Abstain fr food (basis need) +prayer

dealing w flesh , submit the flesh to the Holy spirit 

Draw near to God - set a time

Write down 

The Disciple SHIFT SERIES

 W2 14/9/25 ps Irene 

The cost 

How disciple are formed.

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xborn, it’s form and comes W a cost

Jesus called us to be disciple who will make disciple 

Not just believers, x just born again.

Luke 9:23

Q:➡️*Taking up the cross* and *follow Jesus.*

Feeding himself , reading the Bible even memorise, even fasting. Praying in tongue 1hr. 

Q:➡️Daily *habits* form us into disciple 

Q:➡️1 example on following Christ as His disciple *cost you*

Setting aside time, pray and learn God word together 

Can use believer guide 5 lessons

Todkl Jenny gifts of Holy spirit

 Each gvn gift of Holy spirit to Do his work. 

We shld expect a dominant gift of the Holy spirit to manifest. Holy spirit is inside us so that the world can see God thru us. Ask if not sure.

Why ? Gift for the benefit of others (others flourish bcoz of me), to bless others. 

We shld EARNESTLY DESIRE THE GIFT!!! 🎁 it’s gvn to us! Use it. Be a good steward! 

What’s your passion.  

Be covetous when comes to spiritual, his gifts. 

PRESS IN…linger…

Ask (start fr praying) fr God gifts▶️then start using (if not how to know)practise and release▶️the healer Is God. Glory to God (manifestation of the Holy Spirit)

Persistence prayer by Cheryl Chiew

 Persistence prayer

Luke 18 unjust judge story

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Timing, wait upon the Lord

Alignment to His will 

Pray unceasingly 

Hindrance

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Not asking 

Unforgiveness 

Unbelieve 

Caring for the poor 

Busy

Unconfess sins 

Camp 2025

 Living at the expression of Christ in this world “LOVE DESPITE”

John 13:33-35 love one another as I hv love u

= disciple

God wants us live out his love.

 Love despite they don’t love bck

You can challenge God with question, God is big 

Blockage for empathy

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Judgement

Pride

Bias and prejudice

Fear or insecurity  *what if

Abide

Silent = Listen

Fruitful, must be rooted

PRAYER

“Cnue” persistence prayer 

Watchful 

Thanksgiving 

Colossians 4:2

ONE THING I AM GRATEFUL FOR: 

 

Hero

 Find a hero in your Husband book

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The world wisdom is considered foolishness in God’ eyes. Being a follower of Jesus Christ, you see marriage thru a different lens. Objective is how to partner with God for a redemptive process for your marriage.

We have power to build intimacy that guy has given us. Or we can sabotage it. Working hard doesn’t mean work wisely. At Times it can even damage the intimacy. It’s not a Husband improvement project. Is focus on ur role within the marriage. Focus not on what they do wrong but focus on how to respond to your challenges (wow that’s my practic in fact.) you are only accountable and responsible for how you steward your power in your marriage. The power that Guard has given you. How do you use it to honor him & promote intimacy. This book is to apply for practical work in my marriage and also deeper intimacy with God.

It’s easy to point fingers and blame, but the shame point another person to repentance? through all the difficulty in marriage got wanted me to see the weakness of me and seek him to become a better wife and better of me. I can only find the hero in my husband if I’m have humility and have a distinguished character to do so. Looking at him less of anniversary but lover support and friend. I see fear and pride expose but no shame.

The question is not whether or not you would be disappointed in marriage rather what you will do with the disappointment that inevitably occurs.

God plan, wedding is infancy stage.it grow overtime into maturity when living together thru conflicts, accepting difference thru storm. Intimacy requires illusion being in love is replaced with choice to love. 2 imperfect humans accepting each other fault. A woman never marries the man of her dreams she helped the man she married to become the man of his dreams. Frustration either response in anger or invest with faith in his strength. Believing in his potential. Not finding hero to be but hero “in” your husband. X changing your husband but abt hvg vision and expectations that God wants to do.

What a real hero looks like?essence of heroic is sacrifice for others. Husband has been created and called to Emulate the greatest hero Jesus Christ.

Marriage is so. holy so difficult so important to reflect God passionate & faithful love. 

Heroes are form not born.

God is more concerned with your character than your romance. Just a gold is refined by fire, our faith is tested and strengthen by trial. God is refining me through every problem that I wish I would never have to face.

Right now, you may want to have a relationship with God so He will help you build a good marriage. Embrace him the ultimate romance of your life, not just mean a happy marriage. 

Chapter 2 power for a purpose

Ask and it shall be given

 The Conditions for Answered Prayer 

Last time we talked about the “A” in the acronym P-R-A-Y, which is our way of understanding the steps in effective prayer. That “A” stands for ask, and I have come to believe that too many Christians don’t believe that God wants them to ask. 

God wants you to ask. He really does. But there are some conditions He gives in order to answer your requests. In John chapters 14-16 we find a number of these conditions. 

We need to remember that these are Jesus’ last hours with the disciples; and He wants them to understand how prayer really works. Over and over He emphasizes the need to ask, but His answers will be based on three conditions. 

First, in John 14:13, Jesus says your request must glorify God, 

“And whatever you ask in My name, that I will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you ask anything in My name, I will do it.” 

Second, in John 15:7, He says your request must be consistent and in harmony with His Word, 

“If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you.” 

And finally, in John 16:23-24, Jesus sets the condition that your request bring you joy, 

“And in that day you will ask Me nothing. Most assuredly, I say to you, whatever you ask the Father in My name He will give you. Until now you have asked nothing in My name. Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be full.” 

Over and over, Jesus commands you to ask. But when you ask, make sure your request will glorify God, that it is consistent with His Word, and that it will bring you joy.

So the “Y” in P-R-A-Y stands for yield. The question is: How do you practice yielding to God when you pray? Yielding is when you stop talking, and you wait, listen, and seek to hear from God

Ps Fergus on father's day 15/6/25 - ADOPTION TO SONSHIP"ABBA FATHER"

Q: WHAT MAKE YOU AN ADOPTION OF GOD'S CHILD (INTO ADOPTION)?

ROMANS 8: Led (when led,we follow, we can choose) & receive 

GALATIAN 4: Redeemed, receive. 

Q: GENTILE ADOPTED? YES. 

NO 2 RANKS OF CHILDREN IN GOD KINGDOM!FULL RIGHT, NO DISTINTION OF GOD FAMILY (ROMANS 9) 

Q: ISRAEL BLOOD CHILDREN? NO, BOTH BECOME 1 FAMILY OF CHRIST.

PSALM 68: 

5. A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows,
    is God in his holy dwelling.

IN CHURCH FAMILY, RESTORED. 

SONGS: Anatomy by Kenzie

ADOPTION OF SONSHIP.

Q: slave to what?

need to longing to be worthy, belonging, proving= VERY EXHAUSTING! NO NEED TO QUALIFY, X JUSTIFY 

WHAT CALL? SET FREE BCOZ HE LOVES US UNCONDITIONALLY! BCOZ you are a son, recd his spirit

gen 2 - image of his son

romans 12 - 

hopefulness - cynicism (doubt), despair?? 

Cheryl 14/5/25 smcc (Prayer altar) APA

Discipleship is spend time with God. Crisis = seek God (1st thing) Speak Specific - “help Cheryl” O Lord, ARE U NOT….in CONTROL?, “vs13, we don’t know what to do but our eyes are fix on you…” Meditate on goodness and greatness partly furnished God! Prayer foundation: who God is, not who we are! (God big, problem small) Daniel CHP 9 also same! (Also Pastor Benny Ho sermon) Build Prayer altar Spending time intentionally with God BBPP 5-10 chps (5chp=8 mths a year) memorise meditate hallow God name, his name

Inspire in his presence 2024 october

Ps Isaac LA 30-10/24 *inspired in his presence* How do we inspired? Leadership, discipleship, prayer and worship What is his presence? Hallow hunger for holiness - set apart, humble Holy spirit move Measureable? Hunger for God Alignment in leadership Life transformation Ownership thru serving Aug 29,30,31 kids parents presence 25 Sep 5,6,7 Next Gen presence 25 Cast a Vision Mission casting - discipleship Mission field : working place, family *Discipleship* Great commission We follow Christ & disciple others to follow Christ Tagline : Big church, small touch Cell strategy 2023: cell, discipleship. Release discipleship material every 2mths. ……….. Discipling Leaders to carry His Presence (Pr Lee Choo) How God and Holy spirit discipling us? It’s a journeys Q1 What does Discipleship? Mt 4:19 “Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men” Follow him x program Lifetime journey x destination God is processing us, continual learning process One day at a time Don’t focus of the bi product Turning disaster into a learning curve SPIRITUAL MATURITY is the aim, not ministry success Honest..so that God can work How does discipleship happen TASK=CASK Personal spirituality People relationship overcoming problem ppl are the best assets to grow Goal? Christ centred disciple Abide in Me Connect bbpp Be rooted in Christ’s love Blood scripture Rooted in what Christ has done 10 chps a day Core believe rooted & established in love not bitterness (God love for u) Life is tough ..,must be unshakable Q2 What does it mean to abide in Christ? What happens when we are not abiding in Christ ? Bible based - abide in My Word ********* Not information but transformation GOD IS FOR ME NOT AGST ME, ANCHORED He who began good work… Read the Word Interact with the Word (ask question, deeper interaction) Transformed by the Word Information w/o application DECEPTION information w application is TRANSFORMATION Ephesians 3:17-19 17 aso that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being brooted and cgrounded in love, 18 may have strength to dcomprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and eheight and depth, 19 and to know the love of Christ fthat surpasses knowledge, that gyou may be filled with all hthe I need to serve not that I know what to do but in order to grow Not a program but impartation of life to life “U can’t give what u don’t hv” Q3: what is the different between reading to be transformed bs reading to be informed What the posture of the heart? I’m on your side, not agst u. Rooted in love, w/o doubt Spirit empowered - yield to Holy spirit Romans 8:5-8 Ephesians 3:14-19-22 ( msg) Yielding = to Holy spirit Not yielding = self = carnal = flesh Giving the devil a foothold (entry point) Grieving the spirit of God, breaking his heart Ephesians 4 (msg) Q4: what challenge w face w the Holy spirit disciplines for ccd 1. Devotion 2. Fix your eyes on Jesus * Hebrews 12:1-3 - not others person, or circumstances - when face difficulties distraction criticism / opposition practice until single minded 3. Power of oneness Ephesians 4:4-7 (msg) Yield to Holy spirit not flesh Workshop on “Outreach” Ps Chew Own the vision Acts 20:22-38 Lead diligently At the end of Paul’s journeyp 1. Lead thru me 2. Look thru me 3. Live thru me 4. Leverage thru me 5. Love thru me -❤️God and church Acts 20:24 24 However, I consider my life worth nothing to me; my only aim is to finish the race and complete the task the Lord Jesus has given me—the task of testifying to the good news of God's grace Cell / ministry Outreach 1. Cell harvest - 1 a year 2. Cell OA Mission 3. Lentil Patch Ministry 230 cells now

Ps fergus 19/1/26

LOVED BY GOD LOVE OTHERS IMPORTANT CAVEAT love is not manipulative, abusive, toxis n one sided. love is mutual n life gvg LIKE SHEPHERD CARES FOR THE SHEEP 1. love other is a priority to God 2. love is an actee out things not an feeling 3. imitators of Christ n spectator of christ john 5:10 if u kept my commandment, u remain in my love. love is P k x envy x boast x proud x dishonor x self seeking x easily anger x no record of wrongs x delight in evil, rejoices in truth always protect, trust, hope, persevere

soap Colossians 3:12-13

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. 13Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity Observation: What do we mean by clothe yourselves? Clothing usually refering to Wearing clothes, physical, here is spiritual clothing. Can ppl see if we clothe ourself we may asked. Of course, I believe so...We can recognise when the christian clothe themselves. HOw..? It's When we see the fruit of the spirit manifested in that person, the compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.So, Do I/we clothe ourselves daily? Application: We/I need to be aware that we are the ambasaddor of Christ and we ought to yield to the Holy spirit to help us with our walk daily & clothe of ourselves...When we encounter the unpleasant or tough situation, do we complain first or instead be gentle & patience to find out more..are we more considerate and compassion when seeing our sister going thru long suffering...? By being self control and yield to the Holy spirit, i believe we will be transformed to be more Christ-like. Prayer: Father God, i pray that your word be constantly be abiding to us as we walk daily. Holy spirit, help us to be always keeping the Word & be transformed day by day for your Glory. In Jesus name, i pray Amen! note: When you put on love, bcoz it bind everything together in perfect unity. All u do, do with your heart, do it unto the Lord.another word, working for the Lord.