Dr Hera 12/10/19
RECOGNISE
DISORDER from DISTRESS
DELAY in seeking help
DIVERSE causes (MULTIFACTORIAL)
Distress
1. Has identifiable cause
2. Temporal (time limited)
3. Usual response
4. Experience
Disorder
1. May not have identifiable cause
2. Prolonged
3. Unusual response
4. Label eg. Depression, specific problem..don’t label, only doc
DIVERSE causes (MULTIFACTORIAL)
Can be
biological
Spiritual
Social
Psychological
Avoid all the “over....over..over..
Over-Spiritualising
Over-medicalising
Complexity and don’t simplified
Clinical (family heritery)
Therefore....major supporting
Multi sectorial
Abt 45% talk to friends.
Be good listeners
(Not judging)
**Just be there for them....**
Attention NEEDED, they r not “attention seeker”
Listen, accepting
**Someone to listen and offer empathy.**
Not give advice and solution.
**Trust and understanding, empathy**
Looking for someone to understood them...& let it out...abt 50% of survey
***just be presence for them**
You never alone.
Caution: confidentiality
As soon as u feel u need to find out, seek help.
Question:
How to we deal with our young adult child, just finish study and looking for a job. Hv mood swing earlier this year.
isolate n hide himself fr us, in room most of the time. Not open to talk. But we know he’s talking to friends (May or not be good company), play online games/watch YouTube. we r concern but can’t reach out as they stay away fr us. He drove out occasionally to hv tea with friends or go gym. Also reluctant to suggestion to see mental or psychiatric doc.
Use ***WE*** (not then, us)
—> We need to Level the ground
Engage with them , live with them.
Jesus said “Feed my sheep”
JOHN 21:17
Human ***being*** not doing. Don’t worry of doing.
The ground is “level” at the foot of the cross.
If u dont share with others the level is not even.
Book Marva J.Dawn
“Being Well When We’ll ill”
We need recognise our unique roles
We Need Community of mental health care
- Family
- medical team
- the person with distress/disorder
- Peers - workplace, school
- church pastor, cg, bro and sis
ROLE:
Scenario (important of community)
Mark 2:1-12 paralytic man carried him ***(the stretcher bearers)***
Eg. Dad in banquet chair,
Stretcher bearers 4men to Jesus.
***Our job is to take them to where they suppose to go...***
Each community has different roles to play.
What choices depress ppl hv?
Common ways of coping
Avoid or confront
- distraction
- numbing
- working
- processing
- solving
Avoid - Short term relieve
It’s helping or not?
If not, MOVE.....
Move beyond yourself.
Who has better mental health?
1. Has caring and meaningful r/ships
2. Encouraged to hv self expression
3. Opportunity for participation
4. Engages in faith/religious activities
www.theosthinktank.co.uk
Religion and well being.
“Love God & love men”
U need both...solution for well being.
Who then?
Authentic connection
Relate authentically
Top worried do not wanna to talk about problem?
- Don’t understand
- be-little problem
- hardly talk
- judge
Priority for the person
- understand them (PRESENCE)
- hear them, listen 👂
They need a ****SAFE-SPACE:****
1. Safe space has 2 parties
- Taking perspective (difference perspective, mine and yours)
They may focus on theirs problem.
U need to know and go into their world/cave. It’s not something that the person can control.
We can only see their works as tourist.
Both are enriched- if successful connected. It’s the being.
2. Safe space is EARNED not demanded.
3. Safe space allows us to be VULNERABLE
4.
Life is complex
Young ppl are navigating...
Q&A
If they stigma
Get them to go gp
They always hope, to manage, not necessary w medical.
Harmful pain (relieve, temporal) to ease their internal pain. Alternate to talk to someone to coping mechanism. Brain divert the pain to physical.
Suividal attempt. Ask why? Protective factor, must see hope. Engaging...:can show they matters
Chemical imbalance.
Off medication, gp exercise 3x a week. Same amount of endorphins release! DANIEL Amon and caroline.
Think positive things, endorphins can increase!
What causes mental disorder
Abt 200 types.
Common bipolar, schezphinia ...as we know little
Lack of positive thinking
Lack of ***exercise.***
***Hv conversation in positive way***
Sexually struggle to wrestle to..
Www. spiritual.friendship.org
Recognise..Respond, relate...
Strength based relationship
Connectedness
Activator
Relator
Restorative
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